S., the other part of me (that would be the employer part) started to worry about what kind of drama that dating or a relationship could bring into our lives.Would she become distracted while taking care of the children because she couldn’t stop thinking about a boy?Meeting on many, many years ago when the service was in its infancy, my husband and I were pushing the stigma of online dating.However, now there are apps that make it as easy as swiping left or right.Apparently, we not only regard our au pairs as indentured slaves, but we are also lazy and dirty, and appear to have little interest in our children.
The consensus among Slovakians – who are one of the largest groups of the 90,000 au pairs estimated to be working over here – is that not only do British domestic goddesses have feet of clay, they fail to wipe them before tramping into the house.
Others take their role as ‘parent’ very seriously and want to make sure their au pair will be safe.
Still others have a very ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy towards what their au pairs do when they are ‘off duty’.
Well, I couldn’t sleep because I was so excited, just like how I had lost many hours of sleep because of dating excitement. ” Days later, I heard from our local coordinator that our one-and-only had decided to go with another family. I felt as though I had just been dumped by a boyfriend or rejected by someone that I had been back and forth with from an online dating service that I thought could be a potential future mate. I needed to be reminded by my logical other half that there are always other fish in the sea, whether it be the sea of men or the sea of Au Pairs, and things do end up as everyone tells you (but you don’t want to hear or believe at the time of crisis): if it is meant to be, it will work out… Just as my online dating experience ended just the way it was intended to, so did my quest for matching with the perfect au pair. I know it can be frustrating while you are waiting for your Au Pair journey to begin. It is important to find the right family for you and the agency wants you to be happy.
The next day we made the offer, and then it was time to play the waiting game just as daters do. They would rather you wait for the right family for you instead of making a decision that you are unhappy with.