You wanted to fall in love, but ended up going insane. Don't get me wrong; I loved Greg Behrendt's book (and totally wish I'd had it when I had really needed it, as I was happily married when it came out), but his book had a lot of "you go girl! Looking back, I felt like he was trying to warn while giving a pep talk. The flags are pretty much all here, everything from him being childish (ie, loving his farts, belching, not being able to mention lady parts without bursting into fits of giggles) to the narcissist who just loves himself.
Saw something wrong with him--whether it was suspect grooming habits or ridiculously childish behavior--but let it slide. This book reminded me a bit of "He's Just Not That Into You" but from the girlfriend perspective, which means this book is a lot more honest and much less "you're so fab, and you know you deserve more". " - the sort of things you'd expect your girlfriends to tell you when you're out dissing on your boyfriend and his foibles.
Red Flag Rule #10: If a guy can't hear the word "vagina" without giggling, he should not be permitted to touch yours.
The cheeky self-help book is the byproduct of their blog, bigredflags.com, to which women submit the jaw-dropping moments in which they just should have known better.
What's great about this book is that it's not just a man-bashing, run-while-you-can book, which it totally could have turned into.
The authors are always quick to point out that a red flag doesn't necessarily mean it's time to cut and run; it just means that you need to stop and think long and hard about the fact that this flag exists.
Here are our 10 favorite big red flags that every dating newbie — and veteran — should run far, far away from: Red Flag Rule #29: If you have to think twice about whether or not your man is treating you right, you're already thinking too hard. )Red-Flag Rule #3: If you ask the guy you've been sleeping with where he sees the relationship going, and he replies, "I don't want us to be anything more than this," no matter how great the sex is, don't expect a commitment anytime soon.
Red Flag Rule #5: If your "dates" with a guy consist solely of booze and booty calls, chances are he's not your boyfriend.