Even if they haven’t held similar values in the past, do they want to share those values now, whatever those may be?
If you’re someone who wants to wait to have sex until you’re married, you have to figure out if this person feels the same (and like, genuinely feels the same, not just going along with it because that’s what you want). Goals and plans change so quickly as new life situations arise (such as meeting the love of your life! But if the person you’re interested in wants to join the Peace Corps and live in Africa for two years and you would rather watch a You Tube video of a cyst extraction on repeat for 12 hours than be a long-distance relationship, those might be some long-term goal deal-breakers. Meeting someone who shares the same religion as you ultimately means nothing in the dating world.
I had been waiting for this call or text all day because I knew Friday night was the night she was going out for her third date with Martin. On my fifth date with Clifford I told him I wasn’t interested in breaking up with someone again. “But my hope is that the next person I date will be around forever.” This was mega bold and even as I said it I thought, “I’m being mega bold right now.” But I needed Clifford to know up front what I was about.
Martin had been described to me as a passionate, interesting, sexy sexy man who was sexy in looks but also because he had his sh*t together, a quality many women in their twenties struggle to find. Because if he didn’t view a relationship as a journey to marriage, I wasn’t interested (luckily, he did! ATTITUDES TOWARDS SEX AND INTIMACY Does this person share the same values as you about sex?
https://youtu.be/bk Hrgf Lp R0I Today Dear Sybersue discusses the question from Ravi; a young Indo-Canadian man who is anxious & very torn about having to deal with his Indian parents traditional values!
Ravi was born and raised in Canada but is still expected to marry his chosen bride in India. He loves his parents but doesn’t want someone to tell him who he should marry.
These devotionals are perfect for reading on your own, but you can use them as the basis for discussion with a significant other.
It’s never too early or too late in a relationship to think about where it’s heading, and how you can cultivate a relationship that honors God!
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.
This means that within the first three to four dates, you have to get a feel for all of the following deeply personal areas: VALUES Do you and this person have similar values, i.e., do they generally care about the same stuff you care about?
Julia, I can’t date someone who can’t share that with me and that SUCKS because he has literally everything else going for him. And for people like my best friend who hope to get married someday but aren’t insane, I-need-to-be-married-within-the-next-year people, casual dating isn’t casual.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.